Going Through A Phrase

Sometime, we become "Temporarily Out Of Balance".

We go through phases as we endure the process of becoming.

In doing so, we can become out of balance temporarily, but we need know that it can be only a phase and therefore will pass.

We can correct our ways, amend our lives, change and grow.

Life is a learning process. It can challenge, it can test, and it can try.

As with any worthwhile learning experience, it will take us out of our comfort zones, which will typically take us off of our balance and into a period of uncertainty.

This is where faith comes in as a factor.

We are always in the process of learning something new; developing an underused ability or talent, or perhaps toning down an overused or abused one.

Some of us are involved in learning how to speak up for ourselves, while others are learning how to listen to others.

In the process of becoming, we are always developing and fine tuning one or the other of our many qualities, and it is a natural part of this process that things tend to become out of balance.

This may upset to us, or the people around us, but we can trust that it is a normal part of the work of self-development.

For example, we may go through a phase of needing to learn how to say "no".

This would be a part of learning to set boundaries and take care of ourselves.

During such a time, we might say "no" to just about everything, as a way of practicing and exploring this ability.

This can be quite disconcerting and a cause of concern to others who know us as we were.

However, there is an inner child within each of us, so we seek to learn and, at times, become of obstinate character.

Like a child who seeks to learn a new word, we want to venture to new avenues of expression, depression, and empowerment as much as we can because it is new and exciting for us, it subduesus, comforts us, and enables us, and we want to explore life fully.

In this way, we seek to master new skills and create new life within us.

Eventually, as we integrate it into our overall identity, it will resume its position as one part of our balanced life which we never leave.

It is in this process that we often overcompensate for a quality that was suppressed in our life, and the swinging of the pendulum from under use to overuse serves to return that quality back into balance.

We don't always understand what's happening in our lives.

However, there is one useful tool that can help us to be patient with the process.

While visiting Mexico City, we went to the Cathedral Metropalitan in Zócalo, which is in the center of Mexico City and a very important place.

Within the Cathedral is the "Pendulum of Foucault"which hangs in the center aisle to mark the movement of the Cathedral as the earth beneath it shifts.

The original Pendulum of Foucault was to prove the rotation of Earth.

So, some things shift and change, and some things are cyclical.

In the end, the pendulum settles comfortably in its own center, wherever that exists, restoring balance from within, but more importantly outward.

In order to achieve such balance, we must never have it, but always seek it, and always send it outward.

There is a feeling that comes from deep within when we we seek balance -- the same feeling which exists when we experience love.

It's our Spirit.

I believe that is the way.

There are times in our lives when we are at the far end of the swing of our pendulum.

There are times that we are at the opposite.

There are times that we are wildly swinging about the edges of the circle.

However, we can know that comfort exists in the fact that there is a point at which we can find our balance in the center once our motions stop and we allow ourselves to sit quietly in the fold of the universe.

There lies the center.

There lies the balance.

There lies peace and unity.

Wising you the desire to seek balance, and as always ...

with much love & light,

Rob

Circling Our Wagons

Surrounding Ourselves With Protective Light

Remember how the pioneers would circle their wagons in order to protect the families migrating toward the West?

Sometimes we need to circle the wagons of our lives, which would mean for us to ask for help and support for our own selves within that circle.

There are times when we may know of someone who is in great need and wants help, but we may feel at a loss about how best to help them.

There are also times that we are in great need and want help, but we also feel at a loss about how to ask ... or how to seek.

There are also times that we know we are also in great need and support, and we are at a loss as to how to ask for assistance and love.

These are the times that we sit in the wilderness, praying that there was a circle of wagons to secure us, protect us, and provide us with warmth and comfort.

It is at such times that we can ask others to assist us in helping others by surrounding them with support and protection, just like the pioneers once circled their wagons in the middle of unknown territory, or by surrounding us when we are in need of the same but too afraid to call out.

therefore, it is important for us to see and know the signals that arise when our beloveds are in need of such a circle, as wellas it is to know when to signal and accept that same circle.

We need to know that we can reach out to others for support, security, and care.

Whether this means turning to an already established community such as a Church or service organization, or gathering support from our own diverse sources, a group of people can be brought together to help either an individual or an entire community.

Help, in this circle, does not need to come in the form of money.

Cooking, cleaning, driving, fund raising, or offering emotional support through sitting quietly, crying together, or listening intently and patiently are all valuable and have the added benefit of the closeness of human contact and compassion.

In any case, we are sent angels in the form of willing friends and strangers to gather their individual lights to surround those in need with the warmth of compassion.

We each have within us, an angel.

Some of us may have difficulty accepting or even recognizing aid when it appears in unexpected guises from unlikely sources.

All we can do is to follow our own inner Spirit, give when we are moved to do so, and shine our light to the best of our ability.

As we join our energy with those in the circle, we become part of something that is larger and more powerful than the individuals within it.

When we act as part of a community of service like this, we are reminded that we are not only assisting an individual or more in that moment, but we are serving the greater good ... the Greater God.

We then know that we are creating a better world, and can rest assured that help will be there for us as well if or when we need it.

As we pull our our proverbial wagons into a spiritual circle and offer our own light to the collective glow to help someone through a time of darkness and into the relative safety of our caring nature, all of our lights become brighter.

We can live every day from this place of light, knowing the freedom from fear and worry that allows us to receive and share the protective and supportive light of life.

I hope to see you in the Circle.

With love & light,

Rob

RAAAASPBERRIES ! ! !

Capturing the Thrill

Life is too short to exist in boredom, so we are called to celebrate and do something that excites us and renews our outlook on life.

Each human life has the potential to be dramatic, thrilling, and awe-inspiring. Our lives are, in fact, ours to design.

Each day, we make choices that influence the character of our experiences, and our decisions determine whether our paths are rousing or tedious, breathtaking or tiresome, altruistic or self serving.

We can create an exciting life by simply doing what excites us whenever the opportunity presents itself.

Our passions may ebb and flow, and what excites us one year may not excite us the next, but when we make excitement a regular part of our existence, life becomes more fun and more fulfilling.

If we are one who tends to live practically, excitement may overwhelm us at first.

To ease the anxiety that might prevent us from incorporating all that we find exciting into our life, we must acknowledge that we are alive right now in this time and every moment matters.

Raspberries.

When we choose to do more of what excites us, even if our choices require us to make certain sacrifices, our daily life might soon be imbued with exhilaration, pleasure, and optimistic anticipation.

To understand what excites us, we may need to observe and ponder our reaction to the activities, events, circumstances, and concepts that actually make up our life.

What makes our pulse race?

What makes us want to get out of bed and take action?

What makes us need to forge ahead and provide for who we love?

Raspberries!

It is important that we do not allow ourselves to become too wrapped up in life’s details,

The tedium of non-essential day to day existence may us to plod through our existence unaware of prospective excitement.

Once we have created a substantial list of what excites us, we can find ways to integrate each item into our routine and celebrate them.

Raspberries.

We can then seek to find ourselves riding a wave of excitement that lifts us up and makes our life truly worth living.

So, the question is; What excites us in our life?

What is it that we actually want?

Is it The Impossible Dream?

Are we chasing Windmills?

The answer is right in front of us.

When it comes to the things we want, there always seems to be an endless list.

No matter how many times we get something off that list, we add new things to replace it.

In life, this drama of wanting and getting and wanting is all part of the dance.

The things we want motivate us to get up and out of bed and get them.

And yet, at the same time, we can torment ourselves with our wanting, especially when we want something we can’t have or can’t find.

It is in cases like these that it might be fruitful to entertain the idea that maybe what we really want is right in front of us.

Perhaps because we are lead by desire, which we often can't fulfill, we become distracted from truly engaging the blessings we already have.

Raspberries.

It may seem like this does not make sense, yet we do this all the time, and we suffer because of what we do.

It may be easier to see in other people than to see in ourselves.

We have all heard our friends wishing they were more this or less that.

Looking at them, we clearly see that they are everything they have always wished they were.

And we are each the same.

We actually are who and what we want to be, we just haven't had that "Raspberry" moment.

We know people who have wonderful partners and yet envy ours.

We wish we could give these people a look at their situations from our perspective so that they could see that what they want, who they truly love, really is right in front of them.

So, it is not too far-fetched to consider that we might be victims of the same folly.

It can be scary to have what we want.

We become caught up in the chase and forget to enjoy the beauty right in front of us, like a child who never wants the toy she has in her hand but always the one just out of her reach.

Raspberries.

Take a moment today to consider the many things you are holding in the palm of your hand and how you might best love and appreciate them.

Now, I'll explain "Raspberries" by asking you to view this little clip, which I have viewed well over 30 times before composing this post.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-6g929abIrs


With much love ans many raspberries to you,

Rob

Angels Surround Us

Working With Angels ...

Angels surround us, and there is a reason that we sometime confuse the spelling of "angels" with "angles".

Perhaps Angels do have angles in our lives.

I believe that Angels often need to use angles in order to straighten and guide our paths in life.

Angels are symbols of grace and gentle encouragement.

They offer us comfort as they enfold us or envelope us in their wings.

At some point in our lives, we are likely to find ourselves asking for help, perhaps from no one in particular, and without knowing where help could possibly come from. We may raise our eyes skyward or whisper our need beneath our breath in prayer, only to find that somehow we have been heard, and the help we need arrives.

The answer to our prayer might come in the form of a person who appears at the right time, or perhaps in the form of luck, chance, or divine intervention.

However assistance appears, these are times when we can be certain that there are angels watching over us.

We may find ourselves asking for their help with simple things like finding a parking spot or asking to watch over loved ones, but then we forget to call on them when we found ourselves alone or in pain.

And that's okay. We are called to look after others, and therefor for others to look after us in kind.

We don't need to be aware of the answer to our prayers for the assistance of others, but there is comfort in the knowledge that they are there for us when we need them.

And, when we remain open to their presence, we can call on them whenever we need to connect and be nurtured by their ethereal and heavenly energy.

As symbols of grace and gentle encouragement, we offer each other comfort as we warm ourselves in the wings of our Spirit as we take flight.

As we are warmed by the gentleness and comfort of our wings, our warming hugs, we are also guided by our mutual care in the form of gentle nudges or inspired by the whispers in our ears.

We may hear the voice of our angel and feel a personal connection, but it isn't necessary. All we need is to be heard, to benefit from their guidance and perhaps to hear a word of thanks sent from us to God every now and then.

Whether they appear in the guise of a helpful stranger, or as a thought that suddenly occurs to us, angels are our loving guides from the spiritual realm, who with a brush of their angelic wings help us to make the most of our human experience by balancing it with the spiritual awareness that all things are possible and that we are not alone.

Angels are around us each and every day and night, and they are those whom not only do we love, but they are those who love us.

Feel the warmth of Love & Light!

Blessings,

Rob

The Treasure of Friendship

Letters from the Heart

Sometimes it’s hard to come right out and tell our friends how much we love and appreciate them.

We might feel awkward expressing deep feelings, even to our nearest and dearest, because it is not always a common practice. Sometimes we find it difficult to say "I love you" to those whom we love the most.

We might become choked up or embarrassed in the process, or we might fear we will embarrass them.

None the less, we all have these moments when we realize how fortunate we are to have the friends we have, and have had, and we may long to express our gratitude.

Moreover, it may be of tremendous benefit to our friends to be at the receiving end of our appreciation.

At times like these, writing a letter can help us say what we want to say without feeling self-conscious. Additionally, a letter gives our friends the space to truly take in our expression of love and the gift of being able to return to it time and again.

Facebook has been an evangelist of sorts, bringing together friends from times otherwise gone by.

I just recently reconnected with a dear friend whom I admired and respected from my High School days.

I loved him, and still do.

I respected him, and still do.

I looked up to him, and I owe him a debt of gratitude.

We have always shared our annual Christmas Cards, but Facebook has brought us a bit closer.

I recall my days as a senior in High School when my friend was studying medicine in Spain. I would receive an Air Mail envelope with a note from him updating me on his life. Those letters meant the world to me as they came at a time when transcontinental communication was a big deal, and remaining in touch with him somewhat validated my existence.

Those letters remain in a box in my attic.

Those who know me well know that I like to hold on to important pieces of my past.

This one friend, whom I'm speaking of, brought me to the home of a dear friend, Mildred Olsen, one day while in my late teens. Mildred lived in a beautiful old home atop a hill on Staten Island.

She was a beautiful spirit and we knew her through volunteer work that we all contributed to at the March of Dimes.

As we drove up the hill and into the circular drive, Mildred stood out on her veranda, looked at me, and said "Rob".

Now, I had always been known as "Bobby", but Mildred decided that day that I should grow into the name "Rob".

And so I did.

So, Richard, Mildred & I sat on her veranda overlooking the Verrazano Narrows between the Hudson River and New York Harbor. We enjoyed mature conversation coupled with some red wine, cheese & fruit blintzes, and a history of the the homestead.

Meanwhile, I listened to the stories of her life and how she lived for others, and I learned much about Mildred and her care for others as I also learned much about Richard.

Mildred, as well as Richard, became a catalysts in the formation of my life, and I appreciate them tremendously.

I would not be whoever it is that I am today without them.

I wrote Richard for some time, and I wrote Mildred as well, but times changed and letter writing fell by the proverbial wayside.

Richard & I are now suddenly closer through Facebook, and many of my partner Frank's friends are closer with him now as well.

I wish that I could say the same of Mildred, Dolores, Lorraine, Timothy, Barbara, Susan, and oh so many others. However, my heart and my mind hold them near & dear in daily thoughts and prayers.

I have recently collected differnt writing papers and notecards in hope that I will return to handwritten correspondence.

I would ask that we do the same and return to handwritten notes, while maintaining contact online, no matter how brief the notes may be, and that we keep a special place at which to do so and a special pen with which to write, allowing just a special moment to express our care for each other as a person.

As we sit to write to our friend, we might take a moment to consider the qualities we most value in our friendship and recall that.

That is, in fact, prayer. Prayer only takes a moment. A fleeting thought in our mind is an eternity in God's appreciation of our care and concern for one another.

There is no wrong and no shame in telling someone how important she or he was or is to us.

It might be the simple, fun reality that we always laughed together, enjoyed particular music, or just had fun in general.

It might also be that we knew how to share compassion, understanding, and held open hearts.

It could be both.

It could be all.

When we communicate, we listen with compassionate understanding and we feel safe enough to confess the deepest of our worst problems.

No matter the path, we always leave a conversation with a friend feeling better about everything and we hold a more realistic understanding of the true love that we've held for years.

Perhaps the new ideas and experiences we’ve been exposed to throughout the course of our friendship energize and invigorate us.

Either way, our valued friendships are treasures to be held in mystery, dreamed and fantasized about, and mapped in our hearts to be mined for eternity, such as the the golden riches they are.

Letters, which used to be somewhat common, are now as rare as treasure maps.

A handwritten letter makes a wonderful gift to be treasured always.

We might simply send it or hand deliver it out of the blue.

Whatever we choose, our letter will no doubt be received and treasured with a grateful heart.

So, please send someone a random note of love & kindness ... even if you don't know them!

I can only wish this was hand written to each of you in ink, but I trust that the ink of my heartfelt words pulses through your veins as the love I hold for each of you invigorates my heart.

I love you all, and I wish you the treasure hunt of a lifetime, fully knowing that if we think of one another for only a moment, God holds us eternally.

With love & light,

Rob

Forgiving Ourselves By Releasing Guilt

We all know what it is like to feel guilty about something, and many of us struggle with feeling guilty all of the time

We all have made mistakes in our lives and we know that.

Ultimately, we must pay for them.

Sometimes we pay for our mistakes here on Earth, other times we pay for them elsewhere.

Either way, we pay our time and our ultimate reward still remains in existence for us.

However, there lies a difficult reality for those of us who sin and that is the havoc it wreaks through the disturbances in our home lives, which creates a tremendous reality of guilt.

Guilt is a reality, not a feeling.

Guilt exists within us, can consume us and devour us.

Only if we allow it to.

We generally believe that guilt makes us feel that we are somehow unforgivable.

While this experience is common, it is detrimental to our overall well being.

Feeling guilty generally promotes a sense of powerlessness; an anguished agonizing over a past action that can neither be changed nor corrected.

An opportunity lost in time, forever.

The problem here is that our emotion over this is not conducive to self forgiveness, or the forgiveness of God; nor does it inspire us to forgive others, make amends for mistakes, or move forward free of desperate emotion.

Originally, but not traditionally, (perhaps I have that intro reversed, and I pray you to consider that) --- either originally or traditionally, guilt referred to a fine paid for proven wrongdoing. A punishment made public through financial or physical loss.

Once we made the payment, either through time, money or harm, for what we had done, we were free.

We were free of the fine and free of the sentence, but we have never been free of the guilt.

This is where forgiveness and acceptance of forgiveness comes into play.

Jesus said "Forgive them, Father, for they do not know what they do"

I would choose to believe that the words of Jesus held a begging question mark;
" Forgive them, Father ? "

For me, that holds the key.

Anyway, the issue with guilt, as it is often experienced now, is that it often becomes a permanent state of mind.

It can become a neurotic preoccupation rather than a fair assessment of our wrongdoing followed by courses of action that lead to reparation.

It is part of the human experience to make mistakes and unintentionally cause harm to others.

It is also part of the human nature to be influenced to become intentional about these.

There is no way to avoid this entirely, and wallowing in guilt will not help us or anyone else when we create a slight in life.

We do need to allow forgiveness to ourselves for our misdoings and wrongdoings.

Not doing so will not prevent future suffering.

Understanding this is the first step towards liberating ourselves from guilt.

When we hang onto guilt about something, the first thing we need to do is practice compassion for ourselves; we are human and we make mistakes.

We also commit sin, which is why God teaches us forgiveness.

Compassion and forgiveness are much more effective than the weight of guilt in helping us to determine a course of action.

We may need to make an apology, we may need to may reparations, we may need to spend some time in repentance.

Ultimately, we need to make some changes in ourselves.

Knowing that, with each action, we create healing for ourselves and those whom we have harmed.

With hope and finality, we learn from our mistakes.

However, it is best that we never beat ourselves up for our wrongdoings.

Inherently, through God, we are good people.

Therefore, it is our duty to do good, love each other and ourselves, and always do our best.

At that point, there will be no place for guilt in our lives.

We can change, and we can lead by example.

Typically, the best way to create change is not to try to convince others to change, but to change ourselves and lead by example.

We all know from experience that we can’t change other people, yet most of us have a tendency to try to do so.

Perhaps we naturally feel the need to do something to change situations that we find troubling.

However, it does not often occur to us that the best way to create change is not to enforce change, but rather to encourage and enhance change through our own selves.

When we make adjustments from within, we become role models for others, even if we've erred in our lives and have sought forgiveness.

And leading by example is much more inspiring than a lecture or an argument.

We sometimes look outside ourselves for what’s wrong with the world so that we can find excuses or blame for our own faults and foibles.

However, we exist inside of ourselves and our lives. We are our individual selves, made complete by our own society.

The outside world is merely just a mirror reflecting us back to us.

When we encounter negativity, anger, depression, fear, repression, aggression, hostility, ignorance, bias, hate -- even love -- we empower ourselves by looking for its roots inside of ourselves.

For example, if we have a friend who is unreliable, we might like to note our responses and see how, in turn, we are unreliable.

I have a very dear friend who invites another friend for a Holiday dinner. In turn, this other friend always returns the invitation. However, neither attends and each are ultimately, and annually, offended.

*sigh*

Well, I believe that this year they have come to accept this, as several others have.

Is it healthy for us to accept the reality that so many of us just do not have the ability to to commit to a time and a date? Or is it is healthy for us to observe ourselves and note if there are ways in which we are unreliable?

Unreliability is a large factor in these present days of depression and worry.

We might not choose to be invited to a gathering of happy people while we wallow in our woes.

We might not have the physical or psychological strength to join.

We might like just to be alone and reminisce of fonder days gone by.

We might be surprised to discover that we each do have our own struggles with these issues in ways we just did not see.

Once we own our issues for ourselves, we can begin to work for change within us.

This will enable us to have more compassion for one another. To strive to become more reliable, and come to grow into the persons we want to be.

To be an inspiration to others, seeking forgiveness through our selves, and offering forgiveness to one another.

What a beautiful circle of true life that will be.

With much love & much light ...

With much forgiveness & much acceptance of your forgiveness,
and all the blessings for a bright & light New Year ...

I love you,

Rob

The Advent of Our Lives

In the Christian tradition, we are about to enter the 4th and final week of Advent this coming Sunday.

The week of Advent 4 marks a week of hope filled anticipation before the day of the birth of our Saviour, Jesus the Christ.

For those of us who are Christian, this is a very important Season.

For those of us who are not, this is also a very important Season.

It is by no coincidence that all faiths are called together at this time of year to celebrate God.

The 4 weeks of Advent lead us not only to Christmas Day, but to the Season of Christmas, which continues past Christmas Day to Epiphany, which is 2 weeks later at 06 January.

Christmas begins on Christmas Day and lasts the Season.

Advent (from the Latin word adventus meaning "coming") is a Season of expectant waiting and preparation for the celebration of the Nativity at the birth of Jesus at Christmas Day.

In the Latin, "adventus" is the translation of the Greek word "parousia", commonly used in reference to the Second Coming of Christ.

For Christians, the Season of Advent serves a reminder both of the original waiting that was held by the Hebrews for the birth of their Messiah as well as the waiting of Christians for Christ's return.

Unity in kind.

This is also a time at which, as Jesus would have it, we look to the heavens toward our Heavenly Father.

We see and we learn of the real coalition in our varied comprehension of our individual faiths, knowing that God will have us all as one.

However, that is probably enough ecclesiastical chat for now ... or not.

So, Advent is a time of waiting, expectation, preparation, anticipation, meditation, wonder ... and hope.

I believe that we have gone through most of these this past year, if not all, and we are now in a season of having nothing left than hope.

Not a bad thing.

Hope is a form of prayer, and prayer is something that is too often reserved as a last resort.

How sad, given the gifts of life and the wonders of this planet.

I mean, really?

God, who gives us manatees, giraffes, dolphins, and elephants to look at when we feel sad, is an awesome God in my book!

Anyway, back to Advent.

I would say that life is more about the time spent waiting for something to happen than it is about something actually happening.

Faith.

A dear friend of mine is about to take one of her grandchildren to see Mary Poppins on Broadway. It's a magical performance, and she hoped to allow for at least six weeks of anticipation.

Hope.

The timing didn't work out, so the anticipation will be abbreviated, but my friend knows that her grandchild will be thrilled none the less.

Trust.

They will be seated in the theatre soon after New Year's Day, so the anticipation will be short lived.

Isn't that just the way our lives are these days?

However, I believe that the anticipation will manifest itself in the magical way that it does, and in the words of another dear friend, they will have "an experience to mine forever".

There's a quote that I learned as a child; "'Tis often better to to travel in anticipation than to arrive."

Essentially, what this means is that the big events in our lives are preceded by many days and nights of dreaming, planning, wishing, waiting, trusting, hoping, and praying.

Anticipation.

The times of anticipation in between the big events of our lives actually constitute the majority of our lives.

These in-between times are anything but uneventful.

In fact, they are rich with possibilities and ripe with opportunities for reflection and preparation.

Now that's a gift!

Like an expectant woman awaiting the birth of her child, we have a finite period of time in which to prepare internally and externally for the upcoming event that will define a new chapter in our lives.

Such is the Advent of Christmas.

So, we can apply the gift of Advent and anticipation to whatever situation might lay in wait ahead of us, be this a beneficial event or one of concern.

We might anticipate a great event, or we may be fearful of the result of our own wrongdoings.

Either way, we graciously accept our time of wait and anticipation.

Once again, "This too shall pass" ... for better or for worse.

When we find ourselves at an in-between time, we often can't help but become impatient for the impending event.

After all, we were born as children, we live our private lives as children, we die as children, and we return to eternal life as children.

So impatience is, perhaps, our own little birth right

All too often, we just want to get to the future and have the new baby, the new job, the new house, the bigger car, the new promotion, the busier life, the new challenges, the trials, the tribulations, the realities, the struggles, the hardships, the consequences ...

How often do we wish for an event to happen?

We wish that we will become old enough to drive, we wish to graduate college, we wish to achieve that job.

We wish to marry, we wish for children (who will too soon graduate), we wish for that promotion.

We wish for the traffic to flow and for the line at the supermarket to move more quickly so we can hurry home. Why are there so many cars ahead at the ATM?

We wish for seasons to change, we wish for holidays to be done with, we wish for relatives to go home, we wish for time to be alone.

We wish for time to slow down or to return to the days of our youth.

We wish for restoration and a sensible recollection of our days and times.

We wish for a peaceful rest and a recollection of our middle years.

We wish we could recall the conversations with our relatives.

We wish we had someone to share a meal with.

We wish we were back in 1st Grade wishing for the 3:00 Bell to ring.

Ultimately, we wish we didn't wish our lives away.



Do we ever wish for what exists ahead in our faith?



There is a reason a pregnancy takes nine months to fulfill itself.

Nature provides the expectant parents with this time so that they can prepare the nest.

This preparation plays out on many levels.

Materially, a space must be created in the home and resources must be set aside for the child's future.

Psychologically, a shift must occur in which the psyches of both parents agree to be responsible for the commitment of a new life in the world.

Emotionally, the heart must open wider to embrace and fulfill a new and unconditional love complete with care, concern, worry, and an eternal co-existence that none other than a parent could ever understand.

If one ever seeks to experience God's earthly love, I would suggest experiencing the love between Mother and child.

Parents have a wonderful manner of patiently waiting as we grow; albeit often impatiently!

Whenever we find ourselves in a time of waiting, we might prosper to spend time exploring our material, psychological, and emotional readiness.

For example, if we are preparing to move to a new city, we could make a list of things we might like to do in the city we will be leaving behind, go to our favorite places and spend time with old friends.

This way, we remain fully engaged in the present as we await our future, savoring the in-between time as a vital experience in itself.

How do we accept the material, psychological, and emotional realities of change in our lives?

How do we accept Advent, knowing that Lent awaits so soon ahead?

While many of the diverse festivals and feasts we celebrate are designed to be times for celebrating life, new beginnings, traditions, and landmark occasions, those sentiments can be swept away by the stress of overloaded to-do lists and seemingly never-ending holiday obligations.

Yet there are many unique and satisfying ways to celebrate the holidays without spending too much money or becoming exhausted in the process.

Of course the media, and possibly even loved ones, may encourage us to do and buy more. However, concentrating on the spirit of faith, giving, love, and hope during these holy days may help us do more with less.

We can create, or recreate, holiday traditions that help us focus on what we find important.

Christmas, and its surrounding holidays, can be a wonderful time for taking stock of what matters most to us.

This can include family, community, helping those less fortunate, and loving the earth as well as ourselves. These are trying and troubling times, and we do need to love ourselves.

When we feel driven to give tangible gifts to the people in our lives, perhaps we can consider gifts that encourage positive living or gifts whose impact will continue to be felt long after the holidays.

We can consider donating our effort to making someone else's life better by hosting a party for seniors or volunteering at a homeless shelter.

We can also make a charitable donation or plant a seedling tree in a loved one's name.

Instead of giving our friends and family material goods, we can choose to give them the gift of our time.

We can teach our younger generation to value time and life, to spend time listening to the elders of the family and to try to return to a more simple, slower paced, greatly appreciated life.

We can do this for ourselves as well.

We can organize get-togethers that include relatives or acquaintances whom we seldom see and emphasize togetherness, fun, and celebration.

Time spent making homemade gifts offer us the opportunity to ruminate on what we treasure about our loved ones.

Such gifts are also unto ourselves.

When exploring the true meaning of Christmas and its surrounding holidays, we are offered the spiritual gift of getting back to the true spirit of the season, allowing ourselves to alter existing traditions and experience life and tradition in new and fascinating ways.

A simple blessing over our food before a meal, giving thanks to the earth, it's farmers, and those who prepare the gifts we are given, or even a walk under the moon and stars after a shared meal helps to connect us to the chain and the flow which is our gift here upon this planet and in our life.

What a gift!

When we celebrate what fulfills us and then stop before our celebration becomes more of a hassle than a happy occasion, we return to the basics of generosity and good will, and our holidays will always be rewarding.

Wishing you the wonder-filled Season of Faith, Hope, Trust and Anticipation with all the blessings of this miraculous Season, along with my love & light.

Blessings,

Rob

Rob