Saturday, July 3, 2010

The Anxiety Of Change & Making It Work For Us

Changes in our lives can be daunting, frightening, and intimidating.

When we find ourselves going through any type of change, our natural response may be to tense up on the physical, mental or emotional level.

We might not even take note that we have braced ourselves against a shift in our being until we recognize the anxiety, mood swings, or worried concern about the unknown which lies before us.

However, there are positive ways to traverse through change without resisting the change in a negative way, or denying that it is happening.

Change will always occur in almost every aspect of our lives, and we can learn to respond to it in an affirmative manner of anticipation, welcoming the new while releasing the past with grace, similar to the way a butterfly might be anxious about its change to beauty from larva.

We can only imagine what beauty lies ahead for us.

We can achieve such perspective by changing the labels we use to identify our feelings about change.

We can reinterpret feelings of anxiety as do the anxious butterflies that come with eager expectation and look for the good that lies ahead for us in the faith which will carry us forward.

Change is at the root of all growth, and we need to allow it to work for us, not against us.

Transformation is a universal constant that is with us in every breathing moment from birth until we leave this earthly existence behind us and move forward.

Sometimes, change and the circumstances leading to it are a source of great joy and celebration.

However, the reality is that most changes are a source of fear, discomfort, and sometimes pain.

Change is unavoidable.

We should never believe that we are subject to the whims of God and the unpredictable universe and forces of nature. However, it is in our response to these circumstances that dictate the outcome of our experiences.

At the heart of every change, each transformation, exists substance.

It is when we no longer fear change, and accept it as an opportunity to evolve, we find that we are far from helpless.

When we choose to make change work in or favor, we can internalize its power, accepting that we cannot hide from the changes that take place in and around us every day.

Existence, as we know it here, will come to an end at one or more points in our lives.

However, those ends makes way for new and exciting opportunities of being.

Such transformation might not take place at our choosing, but it is up to us to decide if we will open our eyes to the blessings which are hidden beneath disorder or if we close ourselves off from the opportunities which lie ahead.

So, to make change work for us, we need to look constructively at our situation. and ask ourselves how we can benefit from the transformation that has taken place.

As threatening as this might seem, it is often a sign that a new era of our life has begun, and so we should embrace it.

If we reevaluate our plans and goals in the days and weeks following a major change, we will discover that we can adapt our ambitions and our trust to the circumstances.

Optimism, enthusiasm, and faith aid us greatly here.

There is nothing to be gained by dwelling on what might have been.

Change can hurt in the short term, but if we embrace it proactively, its lasting impact will be intellectually, physically, and transform us spiritually.

With love & light,


Thursday, July 1, 2010

The Weight of The Past

A friend of mine recently grappled with some regrets of her past with respect to the way she feels she could have done more for someone who has since died, as well as other concerns.

It can be very difficult to let go of our regrets when we look back, and it is so clear to see what we could have done better in retrospect as well.

However, holding on to regret is like dragging the past along with us wherever we go.

It drains our energy and prevents us from living our lives at the moment as we continue to feed the residual feelings of an old issue.

This sort of attachment to feeling can breed illness in the same way that watering a dead plant causes decay of the soil.

When we lose a plant, we know that something new and beautiful can grow in that same soil, if we prepare the soil properly and plant the right seeds.

We also know that we create our lives through our thoughts and minds, so dwelling on our past might actually create or recreate a situation in our lives where we are forced to make a choice or perform an action time and again.

We can choose, however, to move forward right now by applying what we have learned to our present situations, perhaps even sharing our learning with others, therefore transforming a negative element into something that is constructive, positive, and helpful to ourselves as well as others.

Forgiveness is the soothing balm that heals the painful wounds of regret.

Through prayerful meditation, we can imagine discussing the issue at hand with the self of our past, and offer forgiveness in return through what we have learned from our experiences.

In return, we can also ask ourselves for forgiveness for allowing our selves to be inhibited by feelings of regret.

We may also ask forgiveness from anyone else who might have been affected by our actions or take this opportunity to offer our own forgiveness.

If we replay the event which concerns us in our minds, we can choose a new ending through imaginative reflection, using what we have learned.

This will allow us to virtually return to the event, make the changes we need in order to right it, and then say goodbye to it in comfort that we know what we did wrong, what we would do to correct it, and what we will do in the future.

Once done, we can return to the present and release our former self with a hug and bring forgiveness and love back to the present.

We are typically our harshest critics, and it is amazing how powerfully healing it can be to offer love to oue own selves.

By keeping our minds and our energy entirely in the present, we allow ourselves to fuel our physical and emotional healing and well being in the present day.

It is then that we free our energy to create our own dreams for the future, taking responsibility and action in order in the present in order to release the past.

With love & light,