Tuesday, June 16, 2009

Insecurity; Reclaiming Our Sense Of Worth


There is an innate awkwardness to being human.

With each decision we make, there is the potential for self-doubt, and it is this self doubt that forms the root of insecurity - a complex emotion that is a mix of equal parts of inadequacy, isolation, fear, and hopelessness. Yet these feelings of insecurity that prevent us from fulfilling our potential by inducing us to abide by arbitrary self-limitations are nothing more than erroneous perceptions.

We feel a loss of confidence and uncertainly of ourselves because we judge ourselves to be so. Ridding ourselves of these feelings is often simply a matter of challenging ourselves in order to prove that we are indeed intelligent, competent, and able.

When we feel insecure, we not only perceive ourselves as incapable of meeting life's challenges but also fraudulent and unworthy of true happiness. We move through life plagued by a sense that others have judged us and found that we are lacking. As a result, we are robbed of our personal power and rendered unable to feel positive about the choices we make.

Everyone feels insecure from time to time because each of us is born into the world with unique strengths. When we find ourselves with feelings of insecurity, however, we need to understand its source. Perhaps the cause is having been repeatedly berated as a child or spouse. When we have experienced this, we seldom accept positive reinforcement in the present. A tendency to withdraw from risk or uncomfortable situations can amplify feelings of insecurity.

We don't know what has happened earlier in the lives of others, and so we need to always be aware that harsh responses to individual viewpoints and opinions can have devastating effects. Hopefully, those we hurt when we respond as such will share their feelings with us so that we can move forward in life in a positive manner.

To berate another in any form is a sin against God and neighbor, but these things happen. It is then that we need to have a heart to heart discussion and say or hear the words that have been detrimental in our personal devopment.

Once we have this discussion and define the origin of our insecurity, we can focus on our abilities.

The more we utilize our personal power by taking risks, facing challenges, and acting decisively, the stronger it will grow.

Remember that insecurity is not objective. Rather, it is an emotional interpretation of our value unconsciously based on doubt, shame, and fear.

As we overcome these underlying emotions through courageous action and copious self-love, we discover that we are capable of achieving more than we ever thought possible.

That is what God offers for us and wants for us. We just have to claim it.

With love & light,


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