"Should the cabin lose pressure, oxygen masks will drop from the overhead area. Please place the mask over your own mouth and nose before assisting children... or other adults acting like children."
That is an actual announcement that we heard once on a flight to Mexico. Certainly meant with humor to ease the anxiety of travellers, but also true.
We have all heard the instructions of an airline attendant reminding us to put on our own oxygen mask before we help anyone else with theirs. This advice is often cited as a metaphor for self-care because it so accurately expresses why it is important. It seems to say, ironically, that if we can't take care of our self for our self, we can't do it for others.
Few situations in our daily lives mimic the wake-up call of an airplane emergency, so it's easy to keep putting self-care off easily; that is, until we become sick, overwhelmed, or exhausted, and we suddenly don't have the energy to care for the people who count on us. That's when we realize we haven't been getting the oxygen we need to sustain ourselves. We begin to understand that taking care of ourselves is neither selfish nor indulgent; it's just plain practical.
Putting our self first means that it may be necessary to say no to someone else in order to say yes to ourselves. For many of us, there is always something we feel we could be doing for someone else, and it helps to remember the oxygen metaphor. We can even encourage yourself by saying "I am caring for myself so that I am better able to care for others" or some other mantra that will encourage us. It also helps to remember that self-care doesn't have to be composed of massively time consuming acts. In fact, the best prescription for taking care of ourselves is probably small, daily rituals. For example, taking one half-hour for yourself at the beginning and end of the day to meditate, pray, reflect, or just be. We might also transform one evening to do invest an hour or more taking our daily shower or bath and turning it into a self-pampering session.
Whatever we decide, making some small gesture where we put our self first every day will immensely for us and the ones we love and provide care for.
The oxygen we need is all around us. Sometimes we just need to be reminded to breathe.
So, as a friend always tells me ... be good to you.
With love & light,
Rob
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Saturday, August 22, 2009
Embracing Life
Celebrate Life As It Happens
While celebrations are intended to honor life’s more momentous occasions, much of real life tends to happen during the in-between times.
While moving from one moment in time to the next is seldom considered a significant occurrence, it is during those in-between times that we are most in tune with life’s most profound, albeit simple, joys. Between birth and death, triumph and sorrow, beginnings and endings, we enjoy innumerable experiences that often happen unnoticed.
These times are just as worthy of celebration.
The in-between times are seldom about landmark moments. How we choose to celebrate them or which moments we choose to celebrate is up to us.
We may want to celebrate the simple facts that we are alive and that every day is a chance to spend time with the people we care about or do the work that we love. Then again, when we look at the good that exists in our lives, many reasons for celebrating the in-between times may become clear:
*our favorite beverage,
*a beautiful sunrise or sunset,
*a good book read out of doors with the smell of fresh air and the warmth of the sun,
*memories of times shared with one we love.
Each of these is reason for celebration.
Celebrating the in-between times can be as easy as paying special attention to them when they do happen, rather than taking them for granted.
It is such focus of attention that can turn an in-between time into a celebration.
Every day is a holiday, every meal a banquet, every paycheck a fortune, and every every night a honeymoon.
Is there really any better way to embrace life other than these simple and beautifully optimistic approaches?
We can celebrate our days by slowing down and allowing ourselves time to look around and allow our hearts and minds to take in all of life’s wonders. Far too often, we can let those simple moments of awe pass us by.
These in-between times are when life happens to us between the pauses that we take to honor our milestone occasions. Without the in-between times, there would be no big moments to celebrate.
Those of you who know me well know that I celebrate "Half Birthdays".
Half Birthdays occur six months after our birthday - or six months before ... whichever comes first.
One must love having an "Alice In Wonderland" moment every now and again!
The beauty of a Half Birthday is not only that we acknowledge and celebrate our life without adding a digit to our age, but the beauty lies in the warmth that we feel as we simply celebrate life.
So, celebrate life and celebrate it when others least expect it.
Tell someone how much you love them. Dance in the rain. Sing out of tune. Follow a sunset until it rises again.
Love life, live life and celebrate life as if tomorrow never mattered.
With love & light,
Rob
While celebrations are intended to honor life’s more momentous occasions, much of real life tends to happen during the in-between times.
While moving from one moment in time to the next is seldom considered a significant occurrence, it is during those in-between times that we are most in tune with life’s most profound, albeit simple, joys. Between birth and death, triumph and sorrow, beginnings and endings, we enjoy innumerable experiences that often happen unnoticed.
These times are just as worthy of celebration.
The in-between times are seldom about landmark moments. How we choose to celebrate them or which moments we choose to celebrate is up to us.
We may want to celebrate the simple facts that we are alive and that every day is a chance to spend time with the people we care about or do the work that we love. Then again, when we look at the good that exists in our lives, many reasons for celebrating the in-between times may become clear:
*our favorite beverage,
*a beautiful sunrise or sunset,
*a good book read out of doors with the smell of fresh air and the warmth of the sun,
*memories of times shared with one we love.
Each of these is reason for celebration.
Celebrating the in-between times can be as easy as paying special attention to them when they do happen, rather than taking them for granted.
It is such focus of attention that can turn an in-between time into a celebration.
Every day is a holiday, every meal a banquet, every paycheck a fortune, and every every night a honeymoon.
Is there really any better way to embrace life other than these simple and beautifully optimistic approaches?
We can celebrate our days by slowing down and allowing ourselves time to look around and allow our hearts and minds to take in all of life’s wonders. Far too often, we can let those simple moments of awe pass us by.
These in-between times are when life happens to us between the pauses that we take to honor our milestone occasions. Without the in-between times, there would be no big moments to celebrate.
Those of you who know me well know that I celebrate "Half Birthdays".
Half Birthdays occur six months after our birthday - or six months before ... whichever comes first.
One must love having an "Alice In Wonderland" moment every now and again!
The beauty of a Half Birthday is not only that we acknowledge and celebrate our life without adding a digit to our age, but the beauty lies in the warmth that we feel as we simply celebrate life.
So, celebrate life and celebrate it when others least expect it.
Tell someone how much you love them. Dance in the rain. Sing out of tune. Follow a sunset until it rises again.
Love life, live life and celebrate life as if tomorrow never mattered.
With love & light,
Rob
Friday, August 14, 2009
Fear of Loneliness
I enjoy our goldfish pond.
Winter comes and freezes the pond over as the fish bring all of their functions to a bare minimum and hibernate beneath the thick, icy, barren world above them, only to return to full life along with the flora and fauna that surround them come Springtime. The pond is a wonderful place to sit for reflection when one feels a little lost, a little sad, or lonely.
We all have days when we feel lonely, but the very idea of loneliness comes from the false notion that we are separate and isolated parts in a world filled with other separate, isolated parts. In truth, we can no more be separate from our world than a fish can be separate from the water in which it swims.
When we begin to look at the boundaries we see as so solid, they prove to be, in fact, quite porous - such as the boundary of ice above the goldfish in the Winter. For example, it is not clear exactly where our skin ends and the air begins when we consider how our skin is affected by changes in the quality of the air and that air flows through us.
When the air in our environment is dry, our skin becomes dry, and when it is humid, our skin becomes moist and supple.
By the same token, it is difficult sometimes to distinguish the boundary between one person and another, especially when our lives tie us together so inextricably.
Every piece of our lives has an effect that touches all the people associated with us. On an even more subtle level, when we share a more intimate relationship with another person, we often pick up on their energy, feeling how they feel and attuning to them, whether we mean to or not; whether we choose to or not.
This is what we mean when we say a mood or a feeling is contagious. We cannot help but be part of the realities of the people we know and love because we take form from the same spiritual energy, and this energy unifies all life. This energy is the light that we instinctively know to move toward, and it is the light we dissolve into as we move beyond our individual egos.
If loneliness, or the fear of loneliness, is a temporary condition based on an incomplete understanding of what we are made of, we can think of its presence as a catalyst for exploring our ideas about our realities. We can respond by testing the boundaries we believe separate us from the life within and all around us. If we test them, we might discover that they are not so solid after all and that we can never really be alone.
With love & light,
Rob
Winter comes and freezes the pond over as the fish bring all of their functions to a bare minimum and hibernate beneath the thick, icy, barren world above them, only to return to full life along with the flora and fauna that surround them come Springtime. The pond is a wonderful place to sit for reflection when one feels a little lost, a little sad, or lonely.
We all have days when we feel lonely, but the very idea of loneliness comes from the false notion that we are separate and isolated parts in a world filled with other separate, isolated parts. In truth, we can no more be separate from our world than a fish can be separate from the water in which it swims.
When we begin to look at the boundaries we see as so solid, they prove to be, in fact, quite porous - such as the boundary of ice above the goldfish in the Winter. For example, it is not clear exactly where our skin ends and the air begins when we consider how our skin is affected by changes in the quality of the air and that air flows through us.
When the air in our environment is dry, our skin becomes dry, and when it is humid, our skin becomes moist and supple.
By the same token, it is difficult sometimes to distinguish the boundary between one person and another, especially when our lives tie us together so inextricably.
Every piece of our lives has an effect that touches all the people associated with us. On an even more subtle level, when we share a more intimate relationship with another person, we often pick up on their energy, feeling how they feel and attuning to them, whether we mean to or not; whether we choose to or not.
This is what we mean when we say a mood or a feeling is contagious. We cannot help but be part of the realities of the people we know and love because we take form from the same spiritual energy, and this energy unifies all life. This energy is the light that we instinctively know to move toward, and it is the light we dissolve into as we move beyond our individual egos.
If loneliness, or the fear of loneliness, is a temporary condition based on an incomplete understanding of what we are made of, we can think of its presence as a catalyst for exploring our ideas about our realities. We can respond by testing the boundaries we believe separate us from the life within and all around us. If we test them, we might discover that they are not so solid after all and that we can never really be alone.
With love & light,
Rob
Friday, August 7, 2009
Fear of Losing What We Have
One of humanity's biggest fears is losing what we have.
It is healthy when fear of loss helps us take steps to appreciate and protect what we have worked hard to attain, be that a career, a home, a relationship, a love, or a life.
However, it is unhealthy to continue to fear something we can do nothing about.
We need to remember that focusing our energy on fear can actually create and strengthen what scares us, and holding too tightly to what we have keeps us from participating in the spiritual flow of abundance and instead creates stagnation. Since we can only really control our thoughts and our responses, gaining proper perspective may be key to conquering such fears, allowing us to grow in spirit as intended.
It has been written that the letters of the word "fear" can be an acronym for
"False Evidence Appearing Real."
Fear of being separated from something or someone we feel we need for our security, happiness, or love comes from a delusion - a distorted way of understanding ourselves and the world around us.
When we understand that what we perceive as possessions are only tangible representations of spiritual energy at work in our lives, we can shift our attention to the right and proper place.
We can stop fearing loss of what means our world to us because, when we understand how it is created, we can always recreate it through energizing that spirit to live on forever within us and through us, to shine forth for others, and for ourselves.
We can stop fearing loss when we realize that our source of our joy and well being consists of the same energy of love, which can, in reality, never be diminished.
We need not hold anyone too close for fear of losing them for we know that love does not diminish when it is given or shared, but rather it expands beyond boundaries of time and space.
By focusing our light on our fears, they are revealed as mere shadows that disappear in the presence of mind and spirit. We can choose instead to direct our thoughts and creative power toward things of true value ... love, abundance, peace, passion, joy, and eternal spirit.
With love & light,
Rob
It is healthy when fear of loss helps us take steps to appreciate and protect what we have worked hard to attain, be that a career, a home, a relationship, a love, or a life.
However, it is unhealthy to continue to fear something we can do nothing about.
We need to remember that focusing our energy on fear can actually create and strengthen what scares us, and holding too tightly to what we have keeps us from participating in the spiritual flow of abundance and instead creates stagnation. Since we can only really control our thoughts and our responses, gaining proper perspective may be key to conquering such fears, allowing us to grow in spirit as intended.
It has been written that the letters of the word "fear" can be an acronym for
"False Evidence Appearing Real."
Fear of being separated from something or someone we feel we need for our security, happiness, or love comes from a delusion - a distorted way of understanding ourselves and the world around us.
When we understand that what we perceive as possessions are only tangible representations of spiritual energy at work in our lives, we can shift our attention to the right and proper place.
We can stop fearing loss of what means our world to us because, when we understand how it is created, we can always recreate it through energizing that spirit to live on forever within us and through us, to shine forth for others, and for ourselves.
We can stop fearing loss when we realize that our source of our joy and well being consists of the same energy of love, which can, in reality, never be diminished.
We need not hold anyone too close for fear of losing them for we know that love does not diminish when it is given or shared, but rather it expands beyond boundaries of time and space.
By focusing our light on our fears, they are revealed as mere shadows that disappear in the presence of mind and spirit. We can choose instead to direct our thoughts and creative power toward things of true value ... love, abundance, peace, passion, joy, and eternal spirit.
With love & light,
Rob
Thursday, July 30, 2009
Awareness and Faith in Times of Adversity
sLife is a journey comprised of many steps on our personal path that takes us down a winding road of constant evolution.
Each day, we are provided with a myriad of opportunities that allow us to transform ourselves into our next best selves. One moment we are presented with an opportunity to react differently when yet another someone or something in our life rubs us the wrong way. Another moment we may find ourselves wanting to walk away from a particular circumstance but are not sure if we can.
Sometimes, we find ourselves stuck in a rut that we can never seem to get out of. Perhaps we make the same choices over and over again because we just don’t seem to know how to choose otherwise.
Rather than leading us forward, our personal paths can sometimes take us in a seemingly never-ending circle where our actions and choices lead us nowhere but to where we’ve already been. It is during these moments that awareness and faith can be the first step to change.
Awareness is when we are able to realize what we are doing. Faith is when we are able to realize where we are going.
Awareness is the first step to change through faith because we can’t make a change unless we are aware that one needs to be made in the first place.
It is once we see the destination we seek, and have faith that we will arrive there, that we then begin to understand why we do what we do.
Afterwards, it becomes difficult not to change because we are no longer asleep to the truth behind our behavior. We begin to realize that, just as much as we are the root beneath the growth of our behavior, we are also the originator for any changes that we want to happen.
There is a freedom that comes with awareness of our faith, combining the two. Rather than thinking that we are stuck in a repetitive cycle where there is no escape, we begin to see that we actually do very much play a hand in creating our lives.
Whether we are aware of them or not, our behaviors and choices are always ours to make. Our past and our present no longer have to dictate our future when we choose to be aware and faith-filled.
It is then that we are free to move beyond our perceived limitations, make new choices, and take new actions. With this awareness, our paths can’t help but lead us forward in our lives while paving the way for new experiences and new ways of being. It is through faith that we can continue to consciously evolve.
Along the path which lies before us grows hardships and joys.
When we encounter adversity, the stress we feel can erode our optimism, eventually convincing us that the issues we face cannot be overcome.
In faith, however, there is no situation so dire, no challenge so great, and no choice so bewildering that it cannot be overcome. Though we may believe that all avenues have been closed to us or that our most conscientious efforts will come to naught, we are never without feasible options.
The best course of action may be veiled benath a protective shell of doubt, but it is there and waiting to ne nurtured to life and growth.
When we are honest with ourselves with regard to this simple fact, we can overcome anything because we will never stop looking for a solution to the challenges before us.
Faith, coupled with a sturdy plan of awareness, is the ultimate antidote to adversity’s tendency to instill disillusionment in the human mind.
As difficult as the obstacles that plague us seem, they are no match for the unconditional love of a supportive God who has been a part of our life since before the day of our birth, and will be with us forevermore.
We must not to be misguided by our fears as this gives rise to the notion that there are problems without solutions.
When we have faith in the talents and capabilities that God has granted us we may discover that our personal paths, that we once believed could lead us in a seemingly never-ending circle, miraculously open. Even if all we can do is allow our perspective to turn an impediment into an opportunity for growth, we will have found the hope that is an inherent element of all hardship.
Our destiny is a product of our own creation.
Even when it seems we have nowhere left to turn, there is a solution waiting for us.
The only insurmountable obstacles are the ones we create in our own minds, and these can only persist if we allow them to overpower our faith.
Uncertainty will always be a part of our existence, but perseverance and mindfulness of what we believe ... our faith, will never fail to see us through to the other side of hardship where only peace and joy can thrive.
No matter what life places in our path, there is absolutely no situation that cannot be resolved with time, love, and friendship.
With love & light,
Rob
Each day, we are provided with a myriad of opportunities that allow us to transform ourselves into our next best selves. One moment we are presented with an opportunity to react differently when yet another someone or something in our life rubs us the wrong way. Another moment we may find ourselves wanting to walk away from a particular circumstance but are not sure if we can.
Sometimes, we find ourselves stuck in a rut that we can never seem to get out of. Perhaps we make the same choices over and over again because we just don’t seem to know how to choose otherwise.
Rather than leading us forward, our personal paths can sometimes take us in a seemingly never-ending circle where our actions and choices lead us nowhere but to where we’ve already been. It is during these moments that awareness and faith can be the first step to change.
Awareness is when we are able to realize what we are doing. Faith is when we are able to realize where we are going.
Awareness is the first step to change through faith because we can’t make a change unless we are aware that one needs to be made in the first place.
It is once we see the destination we seek, and have faith that we will arrive there, that we then begin to understand why we do what we do.
Afterwards, it becomes difficult not to change because we are no longer asleep to the truth behind our behavior. We begin to realize that, just as much as we are the root beneath the growth of our behavior, we are also the originator for any changes that we want to happen.
There is a freedom that comes with awareness of our faith, combining the two. Rather than thinking that we are stuck in a repetitive cycle where there is no escape, we begin to see that we actually do very much play a hand in creating our lives.
Whether we are aware of them or not, our behaviors and choices are always ours to make. Our past and our present no longer have to dictate our future when we choose to be aware and faith-filled.
It is then that we are free to move beyond our perceived limitations, make new choices, and take new actions. With this awareness, our paths can’t help but lead us forward in our lives while paving the way for new experiences and new ways of being. It is through faith that we can continue to consciously evolve.
Along the path which lies before us grows hardships and joys.
When we encounter adversity, the stress we feel can erode our optimism, eventually convincing us that the issues we face cannot be overcome.
In faith, however, there is no situation so dire, no challenge so great, and no choice so bewildering that it cannot be overcome. Though we may believe that all avenues have been closed to us or that our most conscientious efforts will come to naught, we are never without feasible options.
The best course of action may be veiled benath a protective shell of doubt, but it is there and waiting to ne nurtured to life and growth.
When we are honest with ourselves with regard to this simple fact, we can overcome anything because we will never stop looking for a solution to the challenges before us.
Faith, coupled with a sturdy plan of awareness, is the ultimate antidote to adversity’s tendency to instill disillusionment in the human mind.
As difficult as the obstacles that plague us seem, they are no match for the unconditional love of a supportive God who has been a part of our life since before the day of our birth, and will be with us forevermore.
We must not to be misguided by our fears as this gives rise to the notion that there are problems without solutions.
When we have faith in the talents and capabilities that God has granted us we may discover that our personal paths, that we once believed could lead us in a seemingly never-ending circle, miraculously open. Even if all we can do is allow our perspective to turn an impediment into an opportunity for growth, we will have found the hope that is an inherent element of all hardship.
Our destiny is a product of our own creation.
Even when it seems we have nowhere left to turn, there is a solution waiting for us.
The only insurmountable obstacles are the ones we create in our own minds, and these can only persist if we allow them to overpower our faith.
Uncertainty will always be a part of our existence, but perseverance and mindfulness of what we believe ... our faith, will never fail to see us through to the other side of hardship where only peace and joy can thrive.
No matter what life places in our path, there is absolutely no situation that cannot be resolved with time, love, and friendship.
With love & light,
Rob
Friday, July 24, 2009
Letting Go To Grow
There is tremendous freedom in letting go.
Letting go of a situation frees ourselves of things that clutter our lives; too many possessions, unhealthy habits, old beliefs ... even emotions that drain our energy. All of these things and more can weigh us down. So, every once in awhile it's good to "clean out our closets" literally, figuratively, and emotionally, allowing change to take place and bring us to new life elsewhere.
When we suffer a loss, we tend to concentrate our energy on regretting moments lost to the passing of time, and moments that will never be as they are lost to our evolving life.
Like pruning dead branches from a tree or weeding a garden, we need to let go of the what no longer exists, so that there is room for something new, alive, and what is needed at this time in our life.
We are a possessive society.
We often hold on to posessions, feelings, and relationships out of habit, fear of being without, or sorrow for a loss.
So much of learning to let go is about learning to trust. We have to be able to trust that, indeed, new budding branches will grow, and that there is a beautiful garden waiting for us beyond the weeds. We must also learn that, to the degree that we are willing to let go, we are able to receive.
In reality, we own nothing. Certainly, we don't own people. Our spouses, families, and friends are not really "ours." Even if we own the title to our house or car, such possessions can be gone in a moment, taken by a natural disaster, an accident, or financial circumstances.
I recall, from a ceremony at which we asked Mother Earth for blessings in constructing a Labyrinth, that Native Americans could not grasp the European concept of "owning" land, anymore than one can own the sky. Everything belongs to the universe, as even we do.
When we allow ourselves to rethink our sense of "ownership" of posessions, people, and moments lost to circumstance, we find it easier to be thankful for what we had, when we had it, and it is easier to let go. We no longer need to feel burdened by the responsibility of having to hold on to something. We can rethink the value of a prized book collection, a coveted job, or feelings for an old flame.
Allowing ourselves to accept a loss, letting go of the power that a person, ideology, or material object possesses, and embrace the memories associated with it is truly freeing.
With love & light,
Rob
Letting go of a situation frees ourselves of things that clutter our lives; too many possessions, unhealthy habits, old beliefs ... even emotions that drain our energy. All of these things and more can weigh us down. So, every once in awhile it's good to "clean out our closets" literally, figuratively, and emotionally, allowing change to take place and bring us to new life elsewhere.
When we suffer a loss, we tend to concentrate our energy on regretting moments lost to the passing of time, and moments that will never be as they are lost to our evolving life.
Like pruning dead branches from a tree or weeding a garden, we need to let go of the what no longer exists, so that there is room for something new, alive, and what is needed at this time in our life.
We are a possessive society.
We often hold on to posessions, feelings, and relationships out of habit, fear of being without, or sorrow for a loss.
So much of learning to let go is about learning to trust. We have to be able to trust that, indeed, new budding branches will grow, and that there is a beautiful garden waiting for us beyond the weeds. We must also learn that, to the degree that we are willing to let go, we are able to receive.
In reality, we own nothing. Certainly, we don't own people. Our spouses, families, and friends are not really "ours." Even if we own the title to our house or car, such possessions can be gone in a moment, taken by a natural disaster, an accident, or financial circumstances.
I recall, from a ceremony at which we asked Mother Earth for blessings in constructing a Labyrinth, that Native Americans could not grasp the European concept of "owning" land, anymore than one can own the sky. Everything belongs to the universe, as even we do.
When we allow ourselves to rethink our sense of "ownership" of posessions, people, and moments lost to circumstance, we find it easier to be thankful for what we had, when we had it, and it is easier to let go. We no longer need to feel burdened by the responsibility of having to hold on to something. We can rethink the value of a prized book collection, a coveted job, or feelings for an old flame.
Allowing ourselves to accept a loss, letting go of the power that a person, ideology, or material object possesses, and embrace the memories associated with it is truly freeing.
With love & light,
Rob
Wednesday, July 22, 2009
I Love You ...
I have a friend who, almost every time he texts me, writes "I love you".
I don't think that I reply with the same "I love you" often enough. So, as you read this, please know that I do love you ... and you know who you are.
Oddly, and too often, stating "I love you" to someone we truly do love is difficult to express.
It is easy to take our feelings for granted and to assume that the people we care about know how we feel about them. But while those we love are often quite cognizant of our feelings, saying "I love you" is a gift we should give to our loved ones whenever we can.
Letting people know we love them is an important part of nurturing any kind of loving relationship. Few of us ever tire of being told we are loved, and saying "I love you" can make a world of difference in someone's life, take a relationship to a new level, or reaffirm and strengthen a steady bond.
We all need to hear the words "I love you."
Three simple words ... I - Love - You.
When we declare our love for someone, we admit to them that we care for them in the most significant way.
It can be difficult to express our love using words, but we should never be afraid to say "I love you" or worry that doing so will thrust us into a position of excessive vulnerability. It is important to share our feelings with those who matter to us.
Not only is there a fulfillment that comes with loving someone and telling them that we love them, but the fact remains that love exists to be expressed, not withheld.
When we love someone, we need to let them know. There is no need to be afraid of the strength of our emotions or worry that our loved one won't feel the same way.
The words "I love you" are often best said to another without expectation of a return investment. As each one of us is filled with an abundance of love, there is never any worry that we'll run out of love if our expression of love isn't returned for replenishment. The unconditional love that God has graced us with is unending.
Saying "I love you" is a gift of the heart sent directly through words to the heart of the recipient. Although it may not always seem that way, true love from our heart is an offering that is always unconditional and given without strings attached, and given without our prior consent.
That is the true essence of the gift of "I love you".
Throughout history, love has burned in the hearts of composers, writers, and painters, as well as in those of parents, children, and friends.
Love, primal, passionate, and pure, has been dissected, revered, and derided. It has been called complex, ethereal, and mysterious. We long for a definition but fear that the feeling called love would be less exhilarating if it were to be specifically defined.
Much of the mystery is rooted in the incomprehensibility of love's purpose. It is possible to have intense feelings for others but not define those feelings as love. Yet love remains a powerful and universal force that uplifts us, inspires us, and strengthens us to bring about great change.
Like the wind, which we cannot see yet know is all around us aas we feel it, love is often more easily perceived through its effects. As we transcend the boundaries of ego in order to love and be loved, we put aside our self-centeredness and experience unity with another, as well as compassion, peace, joy, excitement, and fulfillment. No matter if the focus is a lover, a child, a relative, or a friend; the results are both familiar and novel, more so when love is returned in kind.
It has been noted that "to describe love is very difficult, for the same reason that words cannot fully describe the flavor of an orange. You have to taste the fruit to know its flavor. So with love."
Those who have tasted of it often equate love with jealousy, bitterness, resentment, lust, or aggressive attachment, but it is none of these things. Love is both a feeling and an action. As it brings us into our light, we strive for the happiness, stability, and fulfillment of those we love.
It is true that love can be fleeting and accept few controls or conditions. However, the strongest of love either blazes into being and withers away in an instant, or lasts lifetimes.
Love is not something that we learn, but rather it is a light that burns within us and yearns to shine.
It is only fear that causes the need to love and be loved to be hidden beneath that bushel basket.
It is when we accept our worthiness and reject indifference that we are able to completely become outlets of God's unconditional love.
With love & light,
Rob
I don't think that I reply with the same "I love you" often enough. So, as you read this, please know that I do love you ... and you know who you are.
Oddly, and too often, stating "I love you" to someone we truly do love is difficult to express.
It is easy to take our feelings for granted and to assume that the people we care about know how we feel about them. But while those we love are often quite cognizant of our feelings, saying "I love you" is a gift we should give to our loved ones whenever we can.
Letting people know we love them is an important part of nurturing any kind of loving relationship. Few of us ever tire of being told we are loved, and saying "I love you" can make a world of difference in someone's life, take a relationship to a new level, or reaffirm and strengthen a steady bond.
We all need to hear the words "I love you."
Three simple words ... I - Love - You.
When we declare our love for someone, we admit to them that we care for them in the most significant way.
It can be difficult to express our love using words, but we should never be afraid to say "I love you" or worry that doing so will thrust us into a position of excessive vulnerability. It is important to share our feelings with those who matter to us.
Not only is there a fulfillment that comes with loving someone and telling them that we love them, but the fact remains that love exists to be expressed, not withheld.
When we love someone, we need to let them know. There is no need to be afraid of the strength of our emotions or worry that our loved one won't feel the same way.
The words "I love you" are often best said to another without expectation of a return investment. As each one of us is filled with an abundance of love, there is never any worry that we'll run out of love if our expression of love isn't returned for replenishment. The unconditional love that God has graced us with is unending.
Saying "I love you" is a gift of the heart sent directly through words to the heart of the recipient. Although it may not always seem that way, true love from our heart is an offering that is always unconditional and given without strings attached, and given without our prior consent.
That is the true essence of the gift of "I love you".
Throughout history, love has burned in the hearts of composers, writers, and painters, as well as in those of parents, children, and friends.
Love, primal, passionate, and pure, has been dissected, revered, and derided. It has been called complex, ethereal, and mysterious. We long for a definition but fear that the feeling called love would be less exhilarating if it were to be specifically defined.
Much of the mystery is rooted in the incomprehensibility of love's purpose. It is possible to have intense feelings for others but not define those feelings as love. Yet love remains a powerful and universal force that uplifts us, inspires us, and strengthens us to bring about great change.
Like the wind, which we cannot see yet know is all around us aas we feel it, love is often more easily perceived through its effects. As we transcend the boundaries of ego in order to love and be loved, we put aside our self-centeredness and experience unity with another, as well as compassion, peace, joy, excitement, and fulfillment. No matter if the focus is a lover, a child, a relative, or a friend; the results are both familiar and novel, more so when love is returned in kind.
It has been noted that "to describe love is very difficult, for the same reason that words cannot fully describe the flavor of an orange. You have to taste the fruit to know its flavor. So with love."
Those who have tasted of it often equate love with jealousy, bitterness, resentment, lust, or aggressive attachment, but it is none of these things. Love is both a feeling and an action. As it brings us into our light, we strive for the happiness, stability, and fulfillment of those we love.
It is true that love can be fleeting and accept few controls or conditions. However, the strongest of love either blazes into being and withers away in an instant, or lasts lifetimes.
Love is not something that we learn, but rather it is a light that burns within us and yearns to shine.
It is only fear that causes the need to love and be loved to be hidden beneath that bushel basket.
It is when we accept our worthiness and reject indifference that we are able to completely become outlets of God's unconditional love.
With love & light,
Rob
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